This healing can take up to 6-9 weeks, but often happens in a matter of hours.
In mild cases, the myelin sheath around a nerve is damaged, resulting in damage which heals by itself. Pressure in incorrect places, or unsustainable positions, will damage nerves directly. There’s also a danger of blood clots.Ĭirculatory problems will eventually cause nerve damage (which is often permanent) due to nerves not getting enough blood, but nerve damage can happen sneakily by itself as well. In legs and arms, tight restraints can result in loss of circulation and progress to ischemia and eventually gangrene in a matter of hours.
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Lying immobile, bed sores can form as quickly as 2 hours when a static position prevents free circulation. These are significant, because if a top is present in a scene, any problem can be quickly fixed, but if you are alone, there’s nobody to help and things can go wrong quickly.Ĭirculatory problems result in tissue not getting enough blood due to position or constriction. Too tight bondage in any part of the body causes two kinds of damage: circulatory and nerve damage. Other dangers are also present, but generally nonlethal. What if the neck and head of the sub is free and there is no significant pressure around the chest area? It’s pretty difficult to kill your sub. This is usually caused by the sub being on his stomach, as in a hogtie. These risks depend on the kind of bondage, so it’s best to stay away from the head and neck area.Įven if the head and neck area is completely free, constriction around the chest area may cause positional asphyxia, where the sub is unable to breathe properly due to exertion required to physically breathe. Any form of constriction around the neck or head can cause death in two ways: asphyxiation (not getting enough oxygen), and the vasovagal response (constricting the neck, resulting in a reflexive crashing of blood pressure). This increases to one in 95,000 if you’re 60 years old, so when you are playing with an old top, him keeling over and dying is much more likely than a catastrophic fire.īondage itself is dangerous.
Other causes of household danger are far lower than fire and burglary, so it’s clear that your house will not destruct itself while you are away unless you are extremely unlucky.įor perspective, the average risk for an American 40 year old male dying in the next eight hours is one in 490,000, according to the Social Security Actuarial Table. (It should also be noted that if your burglar sees a slave in a cage, he’ll most likely flee: only 7% of US burglaries happening while house is occupied result in any violence.) As there are about 125 million households in the country, the risk of having a fire in a residence in the US in any eight hour period is approximately one in 360,000, and a burglary one in 240,000. According to FEMA, there are approximately 380,000 household fires annually in the US, and according to FBI, about 1.5 million burglaries. If we forget the complications of bondage itself, and focus on external dangers that could kill or injure your sub, the numbers are pretty clear: any external danger is ridiculously low.įire and burglary are the main external dangers. And while society is willing to sign off on a certain amount of controlled risk-taking in pursuit of non-sexual pleasures-people die skiing, snowboarding, skydiving, scuba diving-we're less willing to sign off on controlled risk-taking when it comes to sexual pleasures. But being left alone in bondage is something many people fantasize about and some people, like your boyfriend's bondage buddies, will actually do. That's what everybody says and, hey, I just said it too. I'm with every BDSM educator, author, and expert, BIND: never leave someone alone in bondage. Am I wrong? Doesn't everyone consider it unsafe to leave someone alone in bondage? I don't want him to play with them again. He wanted to be left alone, he thought it was sexy, he didn't get hurt, so what's the problem? But while it may have been consensual, it wasn't safe (what if there was a fire?) or sane (WHAT IF THERE WAS A FIRE?). I asked him how long he was like that and he guessed it was about 90 minutes, maybe, "however long the guys were out to dinner." It turned out that they'd left him alone! I was really upset with his bondage friends for leaving him alone-I've been heard over and over that you're never supposed to leave someone in bondage alone-but he says it was consensual. One of the pics was of him on a bondage board strapped down in a sleepsack. The last time he was showing me pictures from a bondage session we wound up having a fight. I know them and I always get to see the pictures after they play. There are two guys he plays with and that's not a problem. My boyfriend is into bondage that's way too intense for me.